Nonviolent Communication

 

Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent communication is a language which helps us to communicate with others based on principal of nonviolence. lets describe nonviolent communication

 

 

Picture: The NVC model (this photo took from Internet)

 

 Nonviolent communication is a way which helps us to handle any situation without any violence. It keeps us away from blaming  or make any violent steps. Its a proper way to make a understandable communication with the sender and the receiver. nonviolent communication has a model named the NVC model. Marshall Bertarm developed the Nonviolent communication. there are four components of NVC model. 

Observation-its the basic of communication. we generally what to understand the thing we see or hear before we take any action.

Feeling- In this part we want to understand others feelings and want to realize our own feelings. though we all have different feelings but receivers feelings depends on sender reaction.

Need- this are usual human needs. without need we don't take action.so before take a step we have to sure what we need or what other needs

Request-its the final step.in this step word selection is much important. its important to communicate with anyone without any force or unsocial language.

I have much experience of violent and nonviolent communication in my daily life. there are some examples of violent and nonviolent communication which will describe the theory

 

Example:1

I like to playing cricket and I played cricket regularly. Oneday I  played with my friends and after played some hours suddenly I slept on the road and got hurt. there was a badly injured on my right leg. i can't walk properly. My friends helped me to reach home. after coming home when my mother saw my injured she was very angry on me. though she gave me medicine for recovery from that injury, she was rebuked on me. that time I was so sad for that. But after knowing about Nonviolent Communication now I realize she was just worried for me and she never means what she said at that moment. nonviolent communication make us understand not to focus on words. We should focus on our needs. Something we can't control our feelings so we use some of rush language but this doesn't mean we need that. on that just rebuked on me didn't give any solution. My mother should clear her need at that moment then there wouldn't happen any misunderstanding. Nonviolent Communication is important for both receiver and sender of communication.

 

Example 2

 In my school life I got failed in my physics exam.so my parents was so upset on me. They kept yelling at me and someday didn't talk to me properly. I was also upset and angry at that time and I thought I had no need to my family. Then i went to my grandmother house and didn't come to home .After one day my Mother told me about her feelings and explain her proper needs. Then I realized they were upset for me .I was important to them. Words are important but needs are the main. If we don't explain our needs properly with our words it will  make bad effects to other feelings.

 

 Example 3

 In My school life  I went to a study tour to Kuakata sea beach. Me and my friends and all of my batch mates and Teachers attend the tour. After going there I and some of my friends went to a unknown place without notifying our teacher. after a longtime when we come back our teacher was so angry on us because when He didn't saw us he started teaching us but at that time we didn't have any phone so he could make a contact with us.so after coming he kept yelling at us. I was so angry and also sorry I thought we make everyone uncomfortable but that time we didn't realize that for going somewhere would make everyone worried.so we all were upset. After sometime our teacher come to us and told us about his responsibility for us and he was so worried. He told us why we shouldn't do this in future. We understood his needs. Yes, we were  wrong but first time we didn't understand our fault but later when our teacher explain to us what his needs and feelings we understand that. If he wouldn't tell his feelings at that moment we wouldn't understand our fault.

Picture: Healthy Relationship(picture took from The internet)

 

Communication is a important part of our daily life .we can't go a single day without communication as we are social human being. Nonviolent communication can have a much positive impact in our daily life. As we all different ,we all have different feelings, different needs, and different experience so it's normal that not all our opinion will be same. For our different perspective our need Will be different and our feelings will be also different.so in this position by utilizing the Nonviolent Communication we can make make our communication even better. Nonviolent Communication  increase the power of acceptance. It helps us to know our feelings to know our goals and on the other hand it also helps us to know others people's feelings and others goals. Sometimes we can't realize our needs but by nonviolent communication we can easily understand that.by nonviolent communication we became capable to say our feelings without any violence and it would be a great way of communication. If we see those examples we can see why nonviolent communication is important to our daily communication. After knowing about nonviolent communication If something feel bad i don't react immediately and i observe the other person's feelings and try to understand what he need and what i need . We have to know it properly or we won't understand other feelings and also can't say our needs with respectful words.

 

Nonviolent Communication also becomes a life changing tool for healthy society. because if we don't use the Nonviolent way then he make many mistake in violent way. there are much difference in violent and nonviolent. Because of nonviolent communication increase our acceptance so we can respect others opinion and also their feelings.  But on violence way he can't understand others feelings so we can't take proper decision in our conversation. we can't understand others and other can't understand us. By learning nonviolent communication people can observe their needs and feels and make better decisions for society. It's a respectful way so we can avoid conflict and make a better society for everyone because in Nonviolent Communication we care for everyone and we respect everyone. So it's important for all for learning way of nonviolent communication.